Is this your compass ?
Sometimes we lose people who we let trample on our beliefs.
Sometimes we forgive in the pursuit of civility.
people are dying everyday, people are losing loved ones, the least you could do for trans people is hold your moral compass towards being a geniune ally.
Allyship means, not leaving when the going get tough.
And right now, if you abandon your trans friends, in this time, you were never friends at all.
If you are searching for empathy, lead...
this is my truth.
if you abandon those who need you most, how can you be deemed reliable?
When facing the periodic examples of what not to do as a person, It can be messy to navigate, especially if you are susceptible to being a historically awful person. Its not your fault for being terrible, but its probably a good move to begin to understand perspective, accountability and a grasp on why these decisions are so decisive and pertinent.
During great seasons of distress it can be difficult to distance our feelings from those around us. These emotions traveling at light-speed, bitter by their taste and overwhelming by their presence.
We find that the closer we are to these tragedies , the more it impacts us and the less that we can focus on the best net outcomes for ourselves. This can mean a variety of measures, self-neglect, distance, avoidance, isolation, and rash conclusions.
You dont owe anyone your time and effort, but being a human and developing kindness, respect and compassion requires more than just delivering your own narrative. Becoming a better version of yourself, doesnt mean at the cost of others. brooding over and counting slights doesnt make for an impactful or worthy amount of self improvement.
You need to defend yourself, your worth and your goals. Recognizing this is important, developing these are critical, and you should do what you must do in order for your own success.
Communicaiton is important. being there for the people you love is important, growing alongside and navigating new terrains with new people is important. Showing support in any capacity other than shutting down is powerful.
Acting as a catalyst of change, demanding a reworking, and holding those dear are things you can do simultaneously. This is hard work no doubt about it, but growth isn't easy.
Boundaries are not to be disregarded, we need barriers, but not communicating these needs is playing a different set of cards.
Understand, there is a standard in this place we are in, its not one, many of us like the idea that we don't encroach or disrespect each other for the favors or attention we want from those that give it to us. Tossing away people at petty costs, is something I don't have energy for. I want people for the long run, not those who just want to get ahead.
My queerness is not networking, my transness is not negotiable by politics. My friendship is not one to be taken advantage of. My identity goes beyond, words and feelings.This is who I am.
I am not a stranger to the game of self sabotage and then sabatoge others. Its a game played to memory time and again at many angles.
Love does not have expectations, yet what isnt a good word "I love you but".
Take the space you need, apologize when you are ready and move on.
In the wise adage, "Time waits for one".
Navigate softly, a compass has only a few parts.
The base, the housing, the line , the arrow.
They all add up, to get you where you need to go,
But not how you get you there-thats on you-or maybe your horoscope...
no ones a mindreader babe...