For Bia, a story of the girl less known
April 5th, 1991- February 27, 2025
Bia began her transition when she graduated high school, but struggled finding a steady sense of self. She found herself involved with drugs and would lean on living in and out of partners places and her car during the hardest times of her life. Our similarities didn't stop there, she was a blonde twin like me and loved and adored psychology.
She was my role model, she was my hero.
Theres a lot of people that played an integral role in my transition over the last 15 years as I weaved in and out of euphoria.But something that Bia did, would change my life forever.
Bia and I met on accident in 2021, I was sitting at the bagel cafe on my phone, in sweats , my hair barely grown out.
" Hi I'm Bia, do you want to chat ?" she starts, smiling, her teeth white, her Lord of the rings t -shirt, skinny jeans and Demonias.
I briefly reply " I have a girlfriend" in fear of her and her commanding demeanor that my current relationship lacked.
We begin talking, the similarites unfold, my life in its toughest spot matches stories she was willing to share.We exchange numbers. She texts me the next morning.
"Youre trans right?" bia says first
"yes" for the first time i am willing to say this to a near stranger.
I add "I want to start estrogen but I'm scared too"
she replies "you arent scared, youre anxious that for the first time you might love yourself."
"So you want to start estrogen?"
"Here is 5 things you must know
- girls like us will always have it hard
- do not expect anyone to understand
- you are not a threat
- do not justify why you exist
- you are the hot one in the room"
Until I would be ready for medical intervention, I thought then forgot about these words. Words that are spoken and parroted by thousands of us in this time of grief.
I will miss every conversation, every answer you had and all the time you dedicated to warmly open your mind for me. I love and cherish you never shut me out, shut me down, you just pushed me towards understanding.
You always made space for me even in the end.
Thank you for taking me under your wing
Thank You for calling me lil sis.
dance to gaga in heaven for me? big sis?